首先是今天晚上約六點四十分左右我與爸爸飯後討論近日新聞及家中瑣事，言談中父親提及中國奧運跳水選水全紅嬋表現及其父親不沾女兒榮光事蹟，基於慣性懷疑，我選擇認為全父是為了放長線釣大魚，縱然收下錢及房產也可轉贈與女兒，總之整體事件有許多可討論之處，探討事件可能性，思考全父的想法邏輯，有利於我與父親的情感交流和我的思想進步，出於對父親的景仰，我認為其許多看法皆有不全之處，並相信其與我可以坦然討論。

我十分喜歡圍繞特定命題進行討論的活動，在過程初期我是享受的，但後來父親偏離命題，討論到奧運選手生命週期，其他國家對中國所派出的選手提出質疑，因偏題我一度想嘗試拉回主軸，但在父親問我奧運跳水選手退休後要從事甚麼時，我回：「可以從事教練、發展事業第二春等」我認為在有獎金支撐下及本身專業，奧運選手可發展性應不會過低，但父親以我認為有情緒化的語氣說：「這麼簡單喔這麼輕鬆喔，那小戴為甚麼還要打比賽還要搭商務艙。」我以為父親這是要吵架嗎？父親提高的音量的情緒化的語氣使我想著戰或逃，同時持續將主題拉回，討論全父做法的邏輯。

討論時我也一併確認，主題是全父是否發自內心的說出不想沾女兒的光，說明是全父的教育程度不高，未受過太多的教育使其不會做出放長線釣大魚的這種事。因父親轉告我的是全父在收到提議果斷拒絕，我在討論過程中有認同全父或許不是為了放長線釣大魚，當然，我認為放長線釣大魚並沒有任何問題，如果他是愛女兒的父親，擁有越多的財產，對將來的面對退休生活的全紅嬋越是件好事。錢只是工具，在對的人手上當然是越來越好。但父親的語氣及偏題逐漸嚴重化，我只好確認他的情緒是否穩定。此時他以一系列的語句使我情緒不穩＂那以後你都覺得因為我是爸爸你當然講不贏啊，我沒有要生氣，你這樣算人身攻擊＂我敏感的耳朵接受到他情緒化的語氣、強烈的字眼、明明知道我不是這樣想卻要看著他誤會我的狀態，我只能讓眼淚落下。此時我說，我不是全父，我只是想討論可能性而已，父親回我，我們都不是，是你一直要反駁，討論當然有可能性，這樣才叫討論，我大聲只是強調而已。身為一個有多重角色的我，我不太懂到底要讓身為女兒的我認錯，還是讓理性的我堅持討論下去，但父親持續地大聲，理性的我只能下場，請父親遞衛生紙給我後離場，此時父親又說＂你這樣以後我是不是要說不能跟你討論，不然你又要哭＂我想我真的無法好好抽離情緒，也無法接受過大的音量，我相信理性討論存在，我也相信我不是像父親一樣的咄咄逼人，我會努力長成我喜歡的樣子，嘗試良好和別人溝通，即使不同理別人論點仍舊能支持別人發言，而不是像父親的霸道無理一樣。對，我想這就是他給我的感受，無理的臆測我的狀態及想法。

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